One year later...

Yesterday – 27th December 2011 – marked one year since my divorce. This past year, I have learned so much about myself and about life in general. It has been a year of growth, of revelation, of learning to have faith, of learning to let go, and of HAPPINESS :)

On that note, I would like to take this opportunity to give thanks to those who have played a role – big and small – in making this, such an amazing year.

First, I would like to thank my family. My parents, with their unbending support and unconditional love (and their free babysitting services) have been priceless to me. I truly could not have survived this year without them. Thanks, Mom, for your faith, trust, and love. Your passion, emotion, and commitment to family is contagious, and I’m glad to have been infected ;D And thanks, Dad, for your pragmatic and chillaxed approach to life. You are the yin to Mom’s yang. Together, you have shown me the true meaning of loyalty, solidarity, trust, love, commitment and strength. Your 28-year marriage (soon to be 29 on Jan 1!) has not been without challenges, but you two face them together and come out stronger, and that, I believe, is the key to a lasting relationship.

To my brother and sister-in-law, Iz and Aidah – I am constantly amazed by how loving, understanding, and passionate you are with each other, and I admire that. Iz, although we don’t see eye to eye on most things (seriously people, we agree on very few things, it’s a wonder we came from the same womb!), we know that we’ve always got each other’s back. I don’t think a lot of siblings can say that. And Aidah, I am so grateful that we share the same dress and shoe size. LOL just kidding (although really, I am glad about that). Mostly I am grateful to finally have a sister :D I imagine that our conversations with each other are what most sisters would have had their whole lives, and while I wish we could have been sisters all our lives, when it comes to your existence in my life, I say “better late than never”.

To Aidah’s parents (AKA my brother’s parents-in-law AKA my surrogate parents AKA my kids’ surrogate grandparents), Aunty Azra and Uncle Shukri. You have both given so much love, time, and affection, to my children and I. I am so grateful to have you in our lives, and to be able to call you family! Weekends without seeing you are simple weekends that are incomplete :D Such a wonderful, loving, generous couple  - it truly is a pleasure to know you both.

To my extended family – my cousins, aunts, uncles, nephews and nieces. Thank you for never judging me! You have NO IDEA how much this has helped me heal. Our family has had a dramatic few years, but for some reason, it has never tainted our get-togethers.  I look to you all as inspiration for how a family should be – although we can’t see each other always, we know that we can count on each other when it matters.

To my soulmate, Syan. Who knew, that in closing one of the most painful chapters of my life, I would enter one of the happiest? Your faith, support, patience, and love has been a driving force for me to achieve everything I’ve achieved this year. You make me so happy, and you remind me to slow down to smell the roses. Your creative energy inspires me constantly. Heck, YOU inspire me constantly! It makes me so happy that the children love you as much as I do – and that you love them as much I do. I look forward to more years together –  the four of us and maybe more ;)

Next, I give thanks to my “soul sistas” – we may not be technically related, but if friends are the family you choose, then dammit I have chosen some fantastic sisters for myself!

Maria, your enthusiasm and optimism reminds me to have faith that everything will work out in the end. We’ve known each other from the time we were schoolgirls, and now we are pretending to be grown-ups together ;D It’s fantastic.

Su-Ren, I appreciate your honesty and the fact that you are ALWAYS there for me…I wish I could say I have done the same, but I can’t, and for that I apologize. I can only hope that I can make it up to you in the coming years. Your sharp sense of humor belies the incredibly loving soul inside…I’m glad to know the latter.

Suri, you are one of the kindest souls I have ever had the privilege to meet, and yet you are also one of the strongest! I have so much admiration for you, and I hope you know that. I miss laughing…err, I mean, working…with you! Getting to know you has been such a joy.

Emelda, your sage advice and sassiness never fails to make me smile. These past couple of years we rekindled a friendship that was lost in the years following high school, and though I regret the “lost” years, I am so glad to have you in my life again now.

Fardia, you are my inspiration. This past year had been particularly challenging for you, and to see you go through the experience of caring for a sick child with such grace, strength and faith, AND care for three other children (and also that eldest baby AKA Amir)…it shows just what a gem you are. I share in your joy and relief following the news of Adam’s remission :D

And to my Sisterhood of Bunnies – Elly, Farid, Hanim, Ito, Jaja, Liz, Nadh, and Syaz – I love you gals, really. You have brought light into otherwise dark days, brought laughter in the midst of my tears, brought clarity in times of confusion. We come from many walks of life, and we are each so different, but somehow the dynamics just…work. I cannot thank you all enough for everything that our friendship has done for me! Our kids are growing up together, and I love all of your kids like I do mine…ours is a very special kind of friendship, the kind that will transcend generations, I just know it. May we be “hoppy” always ;D

Facebook and Twitter are strange worlds – they have provided me with support from the most unexpected sources! Thank you to the friends, acquaintances and even complete strangers who have sent me messages of support this past year. Knowing that my children and I have come into your thoughts for even just a second, gives me strength.

Here I’d also like to thank the single mothers or former single mothers who have inspired me – Kak Mas, Aunty Milah, Aunty Laila, Kimora (seriously tho), Kate Gosselin, Sandra Bullock, and a slew of others I can’t think of right now. You have all handled single motherhood with such grace – I can only hope I can reflect that grace in my own journey.

To my students, who are also a source of inspiration for me. You make my job feel like it isn’t a job at all. I don’t think I can ever fully explain how much joy teaching you gives me :) And to my bosses and colleagues – we are a special bunch for doing what we do, and I have so much respect and admiration for you.

To the folks at Orphancare – thank you for letting me be a part of Orphancare. Each time I volunteer, I am overwhelmed with sheer happiness. What you are doing is AMAZING! To the babies whom I have fed, changed, and cuddled each time I’m there – I hope that for at least those moments that you spend with your Mama Adrin, you feel loved and cherished…and I hope that you continue to feel that way as you enter your forever families :D Please know that caring for you is an absolute treat, and I will never ever forget each and every one of you.

Also, I have not forgotten my fantastic babysitters! These are the girls who take care of my boys when neither my parents or I are able to – Edura, Hanis, Nina, Chacha, and Bee. You have all become a part of our family – our boys are very lucky to have such a great bunch of girls who love them so much ;D Same goes to the folks at Aqil’s school – all the teachers have done a great job with him, and both he and I feel right at home when we are there :D Thanks also, for my “frequent face” award *LOL* Oh, and I can’t forget Lesley, our fantastic housemaid who is such a great help, and a wonderful soul.

To my (currently on indefinite hiatus) band, The Casual Passengers. Our time together is pure joy – y’all are an awesome bunch of guys and its such a pleasure to work with you. Penang was DOPE.

I would also like to (surprisingly, I am sure most of you might feel) thank my ex-husband Farhan and his new partner Sinta, as well as Sinta’s two daughters. Farhan, we have had a lot of conflict in the time we have known each other, but as co-parents, we have remained civil and have always managed to put the kids’ happiness first. Sinta, during the times where my children spent time with you, they had nothing but pleasant experiences, and I am glad for that. I should also thank Sinta’s parents, who are, coincidentally, close family friends of ours, who have helped care for my boys when they have visited.

Last but definitely not least, I would like to thank my two sons, Aqil Arfan and Afraz Alman. You two are the loves of my lives. Aqil, with your compassion, affection and intellect, and Afraz, with your zest for life, “carpe diem” attitude and sense of humor…you two never fail to amaze me. I am SO PROUD of the both of you, and so GRATEFUL that I get to see you grow. The truth is, there have been days where the two of you are the only reason I am grateful to be alive. I love you both so so so much…you both mean everything to me. I am so privileged to be your mother.

And with that, I would like to now thank…myself. Adriana, this past year has taught lessons that you would not have learned otherwise. Thank you for learning to love yourself, and learning that it is okay to ask for help when you need it. Take this as a reminder to love unconditionally, to have faith in the people you love, to be grateful always and to try and spend more time with those who matter. Stay strong, stay glam ;)

So, 2012: Bring it on!


  1. Great writing dear. . .
    Congrats for being strong. . .

  2. my Doa for you and family dear..
    yups, kids will always keep us to stay strong.
    May 2012 will be a great year for u and the kids.
    stay glam adalah harus ! ;)

  3. Love it! For your strength, ability to multitask & remain cheery, salute!

    I vividly recall the lil late night conversation when u broke the news just a lil over a year ago. I am so glad that this is the direction the year has taken you.

    I am so happy & proud of you! Hehe.. Lookatchuu.. a year later, all grown up, stronger, even more fabulous and all that... ;)

    To a rockin' 2012!
    Me love you! [but you should already know that! ;P]


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  5. You're one of the strongest woman i've ever known,loving,caring and helpful.anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend,lover,daughter,sister and u much!<3

  6. Knew you from BW Forum few years back..then I took a 'sabbatical' from blogging..then recently started blogging again a few months back which means I just knew what happened. Well written, Adriana. This is something that your sons must read when they're all grown up. Something you should read again one year from now. "Stay strong, stay glam" - love it. :)

  7. Excellent writing. I/we love you so much Adrin, world wouldn't be complete without you.

  8. huggssss and kisssssesss...
    u are tough rough glam-mama babe! haha..
    bunny friends forever!

  9. always waiting for your new entry glam mama..hopefully 2012 will give your happinest & bigggggggg smile.. since know you in change cloth diapers i never remove your blog.. walau u lama betul tak update tau.. semoga u happy with your kiddoever after..

  10. Inspiring and meaningful :) May 2012 be happy, healthy and of course, glam!

  11. Hello Amazing,

    I'm here by force, that naked whirlwind that swallows sensibilities. It demands love. Years of calm, now disrupted violently. This happens every time you smile. Imagine how it feels when our smiles touch.

    You make things easy, so I fall for you. It is what an adventure should be, different terrains through time. The road feels like possibilities, like when light dances in rain to make rainbows.

    I am happiest when alone. But there's another world out there to explore, one with you.

    Here's to the future, sayang. I love you.

  12. Wow, everyone - in tears here :) Thanks, all, for the kind words!

  13. Wow! What a nice post to end the year! I pray for a blessed and fruitful year ahead for you and your loved ones!

    Btw, thanks for dropping by earlier to comment on my chubby girl's pic :P

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